austinkleon:
How to graciously say no to anyone“There is no money in answering letters.” —Groucho MarxA couple of years ago, I was getting sent this article, “Creative People Say No,” at least twice a day. The idea was that creative geniuses say “no” to a lot of requests (like, a psychology professor researching processes of creative genius) in order to get their work done, so if you want to be a creative genius, you have to say no a lot so you can get your work done.A bunch of people asked me what I thought about it, and I said, “It’s good advice for the rich and famous. Creative people say yes until they have enough work that they can say no.”Ian Bogost explains it nicely, here:[Y]ou have to say ‘yes’ for a long while before you can earn the right to say ‘no.’ Even then, you usually can’t say ‘no’ at whim. By the time you can say ‘no’ indiscriminately, then you’re already so super-privileged that being able to say ‘no’ is not a prerequisite of success, but a result of it.There was a little index card in the back of Steal Like An Artist that didn’t make it into the book that sums up my own point of view: “Be as generous as you can, but selfish enough to get your work done.”Of course, sometimes you just have to say no for whatever reason. For that, Alexandra Franzen suggests this format in her piece, “How To Graciously Say No To Anyone”:Hey [name],Thanks for your note. I’m so proud of you for ___—and I’m flattered that you’d like to bring my brain into the mix.I need to say “no,” because ___.But I would love to support you in a different way. [Offer an alternative form of support here]Thank you for being such a wonderful ___. I am honored to be part of your world.[A few closing words of encouragement, if you’d like][Your name here]
Images above from The Ransom Center, Tim Ferriss, @maudnewton, and my letters archive.
